“If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth”
Several people who aren’t in the relationship age are quite curious. They are almost convinced that they can pray ahead that God should show them whom to marry. Many are carried away by the testimonies of many who said God showed them many years or months ahead. I have always counseled brothers who are not ripe or close to the courtship time not to pray ahead until they are ready. This is because you are quite likely to receive someone who is around you at that point in time. Meanwhile, the actual person God had for you might be far away.
And for sisters, you should not at any time make it a prayer point for God to show you the right man even if you are of age or over age. The truth is 99% of ladies that say God showed them the man ahead of time didn’t actually pray for it. God in His wisdom knew the reason He showed them ahead but most of them did not go to pray, God just called their attention to it and He won’t do that for everyone. Going to pray ahead of proposal, “God please who is the person? Show me, let me know the person, let me know Your mind”, is absolutely wrong.
The first temptation is that as a lady you would start to misbehave especially if the person is someone close to you, you would start to send signals and get emotionally possessive towards him consciously or unconsciously. The irony is, more often than none, the person in question that is, the brother might not even look at your side. He might be busy looking elsewhere and you can fall victim of chasing your potential and wonderful suitors away by the time you have it in your mind that God has told you that it is this brother while he is not even among the people that are coming to you.
From experience, most of the ladies who go to pray and receive ahead never get married to those people. The brothers never proposed. In fact, they fall victim of late marriages because they have wasted their time and energy on someone that doesn’t even exist. So please take your time to get God’s mind whenever proposals come in for you as a lady. When proposals come, pray upon it even if you have received someone beforehand who hasn’t showed up, pray as if you haven’t received anyone.